You have to learn a lesson before a blessing 

I had to post this because I have tried to learn and reflect on every relationship and situation I have ever experienced in my life. You can learn something from everyone and every situation. Take the time to reflect daily. 

Some people are meant to hurt you so you will be wiser the next time you meet someone. Some people are selfish and jealous so you will know what you will not tolerate and know your self worth. Know that life has a timing for everything. If you are going through difficult times now they will not last always and if your life is going perfectly enjoy it while it last because things will change. Life is a evolving cycle. Be grateful for the things you have encountered in life because one day it will all make sense. Notice I said, “one day”. 



Romans 8:26-28

26 Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good. (‭Romans‬ ‭8‬:‭26‬ MSG)

I have learned that when I cannot sleep at night to have time with my Savior.


The mind

A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.

This quote has so much meaning to me that words are just not enough. I am generally not a fan of quotes but this one serves a purpose. Being a Virgo, everything has to have some sort of meaning to me. 

Almost a year ago, I started dating outside of my race. I never gave it a second thought before, but when you meet someone who is really kind to you just because you are you, one can not pass up the opportunity on spending time to get to know that person. It was really a learned lesson.

I feel people should not block themselves off from finding happiness with just one race. Because that is what society thinks is best. I do not think it is best for me. I could careless of what someone else may think of MY decision. The best thing that I learned last year was meeting a guy who really changed my whole view on why to try to date someone different. He did not advocate one bit for his race. He just changed my way of thinking and I will always be appreciative. You can learn from each other and learning produces growth. If I cannot learn anything from someone I would date, I do not see the purpose on being in the same room with that person. 

I am stating all of this to say, that you can find happiness in all colors shapes and sizes. Do not grow up to be “Shallow Hal” you would be surprised who can actually place a smile on your face and have a place in your heart.